People have tried to understand the cause of stress and unhappiness for a long time. When we get into circumstances that are unfortunate or difficult many times we often dramatize the reality as to be more catastrophic and we try harder to take control of the situation. Does that really help us at all? Is there a simpler, easier and more effective way to get control and happiness in our lives?
Over-identification – The real issue
When unpleasant or undesirable situations occur it creates “energy blockages” in our system. Its like someone just put a dam in front of free flowing water. We end up over identifying and start thinking that our happiness is dependent on that one situation being corrected. Only if “I can get a better job”, “only if this legal matter gets over”, “only if I had more money for…” etc are the patterns of our mind. That leads to us trying, wiggling, manipulating, over analyzing because we have given this “ONE” situation in our life over importance and made it a life and death matter that it usually is not. Many of us also justify “freezing” in our life based on the external circumstances. I will be more active when I have “more time”, I will start working in a creative job if the pay is at least this much and so on. In the end we end up waiting for perfect opportunities and loose many small outlets that really can build us steadily.
Re-channeling your energies
When over-identification and blockages happen, the best thing to do is to “completely drop” the identification / matter for some time and re-channel our energies. If you have a job which does not allow you space to be creative, find a hobby and immerse yourself there as an outlet for creativity until you find a new job / solution also to have creativity in your work. If you are not able to give love to your loved one for whatever reason, find other outlets like social work and helping others to let the love in you flow. If money is a constraint today to do something, find a cheaper and simpler way to at least do some of what you want to do.
At the end it is all about how you channel (unblock and allow free flow) your energy. It may start small, but so long as the flow is on, it will automatically gain momentum and either present solutions to the problems you could not solve or provide you with better alternatives for continued happiness.
Let the love and creative energy in you continue to flow.