We as humans have become so obsessed with avoiding and solving problems. We take pride in being a fighter, a fighter who fights everyday to protect what we have and our rights. In this obsession we have forgotten our gift of creating a better reality for us and others. Our real power is power of creation. But what about our problems – how can we ignore them? It sounds outright stupid or at least impractical to our mind.
It’s all about energy
What we give energy to grows, what we ignore dies – that’s the power of human energy. It is not our intelligence or IQ that creates success – it’s actually our intent reflected in what we give energy.
There was a study done on three plants which were kept in identical conditions (water, light, and all other physical elements) and only difference for a period of month was what human energy it was exposed to. Plant 1: Was given a lot of positive attention (energy) through significant positive words and affection. Plant 2: Was given a lot of negative attention through anger, and other negative emotions around it and Plant 3: Was given ZERO energy, no human contact at all.
Now most people I tell the story to, predict correctly that Plant 1 (positive) will grow the best but they fail to guess that Plant 3 (ZERO) will have least growth and Plant 2 (negative) will have moderate growth.
The moral of the story is that when we give attention (even negative) it helps what we give attention grow. What we ignore – dies natural death.
Catch them doing right things
So how do we apply this understanding in day life. Here’s how:
- When you see someone behaving in a way that is not aligned as per you – just ignore the negative behavior and just focus on the problem to be solved.
- When someone does something good – go overboard and give that behavior a lot of positive energy, feedback and appreciation
It is a subconscious human need to get attention. This need is so powerful that if you keep shouting at a kid when they disobey or show negative behavior you are actually subconsciously rewarding them. They are subconsciously learning how to get your attention – that is through disobeying or negative behavior. You can turn around this situation very easily if you start to pay attention to how you give your energy. Once you start giving positive energy and appreciation – say when a child eats apple (and ignore when he eats chips) he will automatically change his habit without you having to tell the child to not eat chips.
Energy is more powerful than logic
Now you may say that this works for children but not for adults. That’s not true. While adults may want to present logical explanation for everything they do or don’t do, these are just rationalization of the subconsciously driven behavior. Human mind can explain / justify anything – buts its only the heart that drives real action – if they feel like, they will take up the toughest challenge. If they don’t feel like doing something they will rationalize endlessly rather than do a simple thing.
Increase your awareness and channel your energy to create better results and life without struggle – whether it is personal life, friends, or business setting.