A lot has been talked about on importance of giving space in any relationship. But what does it mean to truly give space? Is it about not talking to the person, leaving them alone and not communicating? No, its a lot more – it has a lot more to do with your emotions than what you actually do or don’t do.
Recently a friend a shared an apt quote in that context – “Love in such a way that both – you and the person you love – feel free.”
So giving space is really about complete emotional freedom with grace.
Even if we are silent, our past hurt, unresolved anger and expectations are always being transmitted as vibration energy to the other person. Moreover, besides the concern about the other person, these matters create turmoil in our minds and we are then t in no state to give real space.
Often when there are relationship conflicts people say mean things and pass negative or nervous energy, and then afterwards justify them as “I was upset” or something similar.
In reality this happens when we do not learn to manage our emotions at the deeper level. Moreover, there is always some truth to what is being said or felt.
In giving space our work is actually towards our inner self. Work to create inner and deeper acceptance of the person and their actions to such a level that you can be completely and effortlessly be graceful with them. Our attachment to the outcome is what really makes us lose grace and creates emotional turmoil so we should also drop the attachment to the outcome and have faith in life.
Free yourself from the past hurt, resentment and anger. Drop the dreams, hopes, and aspirations of the future and be free – free to give yourself and others space and be in the present.
In the present is only where beautiful futures are created.