Often we create negative emotions and feelings based on our past and current experiences with people. We justify it based “what they said” and “what they did” and “how they are”. When we talk about being loving – we can not be selective in being loving – if we want to be loving we have to learn to be loving with everyone.
You will say but how can I love everyone? Many worry about being taken advantage of when they are loving. I can’t blame them – their past experience may have been that way. However, what we need to learn is that how we “”tell our truth” and how we “live our truth” give us strength to be clear such that we do not allow the other person to take us granted or advantage of our love. Real strength is in that.
So really why bother with all this – why not leave people to themselves?
First and foremost, we need to understand that ill will is like a fire that burns within us first and foremost. It burns our love first – and affects “who we are” to the degree that we can not be truly loving to others who we naturally feel love towards.
But what if the other person does not reciprocate?
Being loving is not about reciprocation. It is about our nature. We need to understand that we are doing this for ourselves and no one is obliged to respond. They should be free from all expectations.
Moreover, working to remove ill does not automatically mean one has to agree to anyone’s demands or expectations. We should ourselves be free to live and tell our truth and leave the person to be the same way.