Many of us work hard to avoid emotional pain and life keeps giving us pain in one form or the other. Many of us believe that we have pain when our expectations are not met so it’s better to not have expectations and then there will be no pain. While unreasonable expectations do cause pain, pain avoidance strategy actually strengthens the root cause and does not help us make fundamental change that we need to make. So is there a way to use pain in a positive way? Can pain be used as an indicator for positive change in life?
Understanding Root Cause
There are two key roots causes usually at play that cause pain:
- When we act in “misalignment” with the “universal principles”
- When we act in “misalignment” with “who we really are”
Usually pain is an indicator that we are in misalignment and need to come back in alignment.
Internalize NOT externalize
Usually when we have challenging situations we find external reasons and what people did or did not do for us:
- Oh! I am miserable because she left me
- Only if they can act more responsibly
- Oh the market is bad that’s why I am not getting a job
- I worked so hard, even then I got fired
Essentially when we externalize the issue and blame our situation on others – we are disempowering ourselves and absolving ourselves of understanding what we need to change. We are losing the message and an opportunity to align ourselves and gain the power to manifest our dreams.
So which areas of your life are you feeling emotional pain in? What are you not accepting? What are you externalizing? What limiting beliefs can you change to improve the situation?