We have all heard – “Actions speak louder than words”. Even then why do we spend so much effort on talking about how much we care and so little effort and energy in doing things that need to be done to show that you really care. What does it mean to really care?
When we care – we are proactive. We don’t always wait for complains to do something – we act out of joy of sharing, doing, being and strengthening the relationship. At work I always say as a boss – If I come to you with any issue, whatever you say is an excuse and if you come to me with problems proactively its your ownership and caring for your work and client.
There can be no caring without understanding. If I care I will make an effort to understand. If I do things I love doing or am automatically programmed to do – there is not much relevance for other and my actions may not felt as caring.
Courage to act and invest
Caring goes beyond immediate action or fixing immediate concerns. There is no joy in playing defensive. Many times our real test is how much courage we have to act and over time invest in the relationship. If it is important to us we will have courage to change, courage to have a proper longer term idea of how we want to relate.
In this most important steps are to in detail visualize the quality of relationship you want and then detail out in your mind what all you need to do to reach there. Then over time slowly and steadily invest time and effort in nurturing the relationship.